Why moving to New York will be the best decision I have ever made (and how I know I’m right)

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We were going on the 111th day of living without a home, and life on the road was actually becoming pretty comfy. We have become masters at temporary move-ins. I am now confident that I can consolidate all my belongings into a backpack and have them neatly packed into the trunk in 9 minutes flat (well… MY 9 minutes usually means closer to 27 minutes).

Melissa and Shane standing in front of New York skyline from across the Hudson - text: Big city, bigger dreams.

Since we arrived in New York, everything has been aligning almost magically. Our friends had been renting out one side of their house and the tenants just moved out the day of our arrival. It came equipped with an air mattress and fridge which is really all we need.

We were greeted each morning with fresh drip coffee or espresso and sent to bed with full tummies. We have even been inducted into their social circle, meeting a handful of other awesome New Yorkers. We have so much gratitude for these friends, both old and new.

The Realization

Silhouette looking at New York at night with a lighted bridge - text: Focus on your goals, not your challenges"

After a few days in New York, I had a realization: Everyone we had met in New York so far seems to have their shit together and is doing really well for themselves.

This realization reminded me of an article my friend Craig wrote earlier this year titled: How to Increase Your Income by 10x in the Next Four Years.

The Inspiration

Craig was initially a “party friend” until I ran into him at an internet marketing conference back in 2009… both of us sort of baffled that the other even had a job. Since that time I’ve watched Craig become a highly successful entrepreneur, move to New York and even star in a reality show.

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I was sitting on the floor of a hostel hallway in France when I read a Facebook post about an article Craig had written being featured on Next Shark. Whether or not he knows it, he has  gradually become my mentor from afar. So when he posted about his feature, I dropped everything to read it.

As I read through his tips for increasing your income, I felt ahead of the game… I was already doing a lot of these things. But a few points stood out to me, probably because they were the points I had been neglecting.

My takeaway on Craig’s post is that you should basically own up to your own shit, realize how you’re spending your time and then take control of it all.

“Want something really big,” he says, “if you don’t want something you can’t afford, your income will NOT rise very quickly on its own, so set your sights high.”

That makes a lot of sense. He goes on to say:

They say you are a sum of the five people you spend the most time with, and being around people who were more successful than me made me want something I feel we humans are even more deeply wired to want: to be at the same level as the rest of the folks in your “tribe.”

It was this drive that motivated me to do the previous six things, work my ass off and grow my income by 10x, which led me to one of the proudest days of my life — the day I closed on the exact condo I wanted in NYC. – Craig Clemens

The Decision Point

Sitting on a boat on the Hudson River with a glass of wine and a group of friends that are not only supportive, but inspiring, my husband and I both looked at each other and locked eyes. We suddenly both knew that New York would be our next adventure.

 

Couple gazing at New York Skyline from the Brooklyn Bridge - text: Say hello to the unknown" - girltripping.com

How do I know this is going to be the best decision we have ever made?

It’s simple. I have decided it will be.

We are all creating our lives as we go. We choose the value we give to the universe so we in turn choose the value we receive from the universe.

I think it’s best said with a quote: 'If you want the best the world has to offer, offer the world your best.'— Neale Donald Walsch Click To Tweet

Have you ever made a life changing decision? What happened? Tell me in the comments!

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  • felicity
    Reply

    Cute stuff cutie pie. Happy for you!

  • Val
    Reply

    Great article Melissa! Your family all has so much faith in you that you will fulfill your dreams and hoals! I am behind you all the way. So exciting to watch you on your journey! More exciting that you have an awesome partner who has the same desires! Beyond happy for you both!

  • Heidi Wagoner
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    Awesome! Congrats to you for making the decision and knowing it will be great. That is the way to do it. We moved from USA to Spain in Aug 2012 and then became nomadic for the past year. We too just knew we would make it work no matter what and we did. The mind is a powerful thing. NYC is fantastic and you will do well.

    • Melissa
      Reply

      Thanks for the motivation Heidi! We are loving it so far. Your story is inspiring!

  • Lisa Niver, We Said Go Travel
    Reply

    Enjoy the big apple! Congrats on making a commitment to yourselves and each other! I look forward to watching it unfold. GREAT PHOTOS! Lisa

    • Melissa
      Reply

      Thank you Lisa! So glad we follow each other.

  • Marieta
    Reply

    Hi Melissa! I’m planning to move to New York next year. I’m from Lima, Peru and it’s really scary because here I have everything I “need”: great life, great apartment, great job and great friends. But the thing is that there’s something missing, sometimes I feel like an outsider, so after 5 years of travelling to NYC pretty much once or twice a year, I made the decision. Any advise??

    • Melissa
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      Thanks for the comment Marieta! Congrats on making the decision to move! One thing I noticed from your comment is your gratitude for all you already have. That’s the key to being happy anywhere. Although a move to a place like New York can be hard and scary and chaotic at times, focus on the good just like you seem to in Lima.
      I often feel like places are “missing something”. I think that’s just our adventurous spirits. No place has everything, but as cheesy as it sounds, I think it’s up to the person to “complete” their experience anywhere. You’re in Lima for what Lima has to offer… take everything in and make it a part of you. Then be in New York for what New York has to offer, and make that a part of you also.
      I guess my advice would be: Wherever you are, truly and fully BE there. Appreciate everything and nothing will feel lacking.
      I hope you love it as much as I do! And hopefully we’ll connect someday :-)

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